Emotional Abuse Checklist

  • Do you have to get permission to socialize with your friends?
  • Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.?
  • Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he’s in a good mood?
  • Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending?
  • Does he tell you no one else would ever want you?
  • Does he threaten to harm himself if you leave him?
  • Does he go through your purse or open your mail?
  • Does he make disparaging remarks about the way you look or dress?
  • Does he use things against you that you’ve confided to him in the past?
  • Does he sabotage your efforts to be involved in pleasant social or family events?
  • Does he compare you negatively to other women?
  • Are you nervous about being on the phone when he is around?
  • Is it okay to return home later than scheduled without being fearful?
  • Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner?
  • Does he give you the ‘silent treatment’ when you want to talk or work things out?
  • Does he try to turn the children against you?
  • Do you feel manipulated by his kindness or gifts?
  • Do you feel obligated to be sexual with your partner?
  • Are your activities and interests looked upon as unimportant and trivial?
  • Does he sabotage your schedule and outside commitments?